by Dr Marc R. Dussault
Author of Speed Studying Techniques
Everyone’s had the unfortunate experience of studying endlessly for a test and yet still failing thanks to sheer anxiousness or some other outside problem.
You might be planning and hoping on becoming a great scholar in your chosen area of study, but human nature and past experience tells us that you will make some blunders along the way, you’re only human you have to expect this and not be deterred when it happens, but rather allow your failures to make you more determined.
Failure moves us closer to our goals, as that is when we cross analyse and study where we went wrong.
A baby doesn’t give up on learning to walk, it tries over and over again until it succeeds no matter what. Young adults and adults, however, often tend to give something only a few tries before abandoning hope, and we shouldn’t. Learn from mistakes, don’t be discouraged by them; you will succeed by putting thought into your efforts, and that ability can only come with experience. So in a way, you achieve success simply by making enough mistakes.
If you beat yourself more, you will only feel worse. When you feel miserable, your energy and motivation go down and you get trapped in a downward spiral. The only way to move out of this trap is to take a decision that you will not let yourself down and get mad and also that you will not give up thus letting you down.
No one will be drowned if they fall down in a puddle of water face down, unless they remained in that position; this is the mental make up you need to carry within yourself.
If you subscribe to the mindset that what is initially deemed as “failure” can actually lead to bigger and better successes in the future, you will find yourself motivated at times when all seems to be lost. For example, if you bomb an exam you spent weeks studying for, you should remind yourself that even though the results were not what you expected, you tried your best, and learned from the experience.
Thinking like this, you will never really fail a test, because mentally you will know that you’ve come out ahead whatever your grades say. So put yourself in a headspace where everything is progress towards eventual success, and you will be able to reach that success more easily no matter what you aim for.
When you feel especially vulnerable, you’re also more likely to feel as though you don’t measure up to others, as though your inadequacies loom large in comparison to your peers. But I can assure you that although others may sometimes count your areas of weakness as their areas of strength, you shouldn’t infer that you’re in any way inferior. On the contrary; you have your own unique set of strengths which cannot be duplicated. The only comparisons that are necessary to make are with your own personal best.
If you are absolutely committed to a goal, you will find a way to make it happen. Think of a recent accomplishment you’ve had that you worked hard to achieve. Was there any doubt that you’d get what you wanted? Is it not true, if you are really honest with yourself, that when you have come up short in the past it’s in part, because you really didn’t give it your all?
You have to be honest with yourself and match your level of intensity and effort with your results. Nothing ventured, nothing gained. If you don’t try very hard, don’t expect miracles overnight and sometimes even when you do try hard, the miracles still don’t come I once heard that miracles are hidden amongst a lot of hard work, determination and failure Pressure under fire creates diamonds and that will be your result also if you persist and long enough, study success and aspire to success, you will become your own miracle!
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